I’ve come to realize that letting go of perfect is necessary for my health + happiness! For a long time I have felt the need to strive for perfect… within myself and how I interact with the world. It even has sneakily overflowed into having ridiculously high expectations of others. Well, I’m simply not down with that anymore… it doesn’t feel good to me and therefore it’s got to go.
My ego will happily tell me high expectations are a good thing and that being a perfectionist is a quality of mine. But honestly it always felt like a double edged sword. One simply can’t maintain the pretty face of perfection.
It’s a dangerous game – fighting for perfection. Why?
Because “Perfect” is simply unattainable, it’s an endless battle.
What is perfect anyways? How can you even answer that question with certainty… you really can’t. You could say that perfect is in the eye of the beholder, just as the saying goes… “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. It is a similar paradox with “Normal”… like WTF is normal anyways?! What may be perfect to one may very well be far off from another’s version of perfect. This very often leads to confusion, frustration, unnecessary judgement and a multitude of other undesirables.
Striving for perfect is like striving for failure wrapped up in pretty disappointment wrapping paper. It doesn’t feel good to be in that place and I know from plenty of experience. My high expectations of myself have been the worst of all. For me… Perfect fearfully finishes or not at all. Perfect feels lonely and restrictive. Perfect is oppressive. Perfect is exhausting!
Ultimately perfection within me is a belief that I am not good enough. And expectation of perfection in another or situation is all about the desire for control. The choice is ours!
Having the story of needing to be or have things be perfect is a dead-end. It kills creativity… that special sauce that we all have within us. Oh sweet creativity… That is the sacred goodness that naturally flows from us if we allow it to. Perfect is just a story… it’s just a roadblock. Make the choice to walk around it when it drops in demanding attention.
Letting go of perfect means more freedom, authentic expression, + finding new avenues of flow. Each day we can remain open to what wants to be revealed… without the expectation of an end result. Yesss! That feels way so much better, don’t you think?
Thinking things should be a certain way leaves little to no room for
the magic that is at work all around us…
the mystery of life!
One thing I have noticed with choosing to a life of letting go of perfect is… synchronicities + new discoveries abound. When I choose to I can stay curious about myself , others and the unfolding of my day… life feels simpler, easeful + joyous. Enjoying the moments of my life even more… especially the seemingly simplest ones is a big reward.
Remember… the choice to choose is our choice. :) It’s all about the journey and we all have a choice to enjoy it as the beautifully uncertain magnificense that life is. No perfection needed.
Doing things consciously and with care is important AND we must also remind ourselves to leave space for things to unfold naturally. A good habit is to step away from what you are doing or currently obsessing over and step outside or into a different environment so you can shift your perspective. Nature is a wonderful example of excellence at work… everything is done in its own natural and unique way, not rush or forced… just easy order flowing + unfolding!
And finally… maybe perfect is something we can notice + appreciate but we just aren’t meant to worry about creating ourselves. The universe is already at work at a far greater level than we could ever even imagine. From the intricate to the grandiose it is awe inspiring to experience this beautiful universe we are a part of. Allow yourself to embrace what is, right now in this moment.
What are your thoughts on “Perfect”? Is there somewhere in your life you’ve been striving for perfect and you feel it’s time to let that go?
Remember… you are perfectly imperfect and that is just the way you are meant to be. So be unapologetically you. ♥